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Jul. 2nd, 2007 04:20 pmSomewhat down today. My wedding ring broke *again*, the day after my birthday, this time a crack straight through the inner band leading one of the leaf overlaps to detach. The last break was the 'free' leaf, the centerpiece, breaking off. I'd sent it back to the jeweler, and she was very apologetic, and fixed it right away, doing a nice job, it just didn't last long - the first break was May 17.
So I emailed her about the latest problem, asking her advice. Her response was pretty hysterical, very apologetic and distraught. I responded as kindly as possible, including a tossed off comment that 'maybe I'm tougher on my hands than I thought'. I'm not interested in blaming anyone, I could care less about the concept, I just want my lovely ring wearable. Besides, she's a nice enough woman, and makes lovely jewelry, so I just wanted to set her mind at ease - I even asked about a custom pair of earrings.
I got a response today, and this part rather took my by surprise; Even though your ring is pretty much pure gold, I am quite confident that if you followed my instructions and understood that you should only where it under casual circumstances, that it should have been absolutely fine and not in such a vulnerable state. It plain just should not have broken so easily.
Now *I* feel blamed, and an surprisingly sad about it. It's hard to explain - there's a certain amount of defensiveness in my reaction, as I've spent a lot of time thinking about what I could have possibly done differently, but still...I just don't see where there has to be blame in any of this. I haven't replied yet, I'm not sure what I'll say. I'll probably just elide that statement entirely, but I think I'll skip ordering the earrings as well. I'm just not sure, and I really, really wish it hadn't gone down quite this way. It's a piece of jewelry - expensive, yes, but in the end, it's just an object, not worth hurt feelings.
So I emailed her about the latest problem, asking her advice. Her response was pretty hysterical, very apologetic and distraught. I responded as kindly as possible, including a tossed off comment that 'maybe I'm tougher on my hands than I thought'. I'm not interested in blaming anyone, I could care less about the concept, I just want my lovely ring wearable. Besides, she's a nice enough woman, and makes lovely jewelry, so I just wanted to set her mind at ease - I even asked about a custom pair of earrings.
I got a response today, and this part rather took my by surprise; Even though your ring is pretty much pure gold, I am quite confident that if you followed my instructions and understood that you should only where it under casual circumstances, that it should have been absolutely fine and not in such a vulnerable state. It plain just should not have broken so easily.
Now *I* feel blamed, and an surprisingly sad about it. It's hard to explain - there's a certain amount of defensiveness in my reaction, as I've spent a lot of time thinking about what I could have possibly done differently, but still...I just don't see where there has to be blame in any of this. I haven't replied yet, I'm not sure what I'll say. I'll probably just elide that statement entirely, but I think I'll skip ordering the earrings as well. I'm just not sure, and I really, really wish it hadn't gone down quite this way. It's a piece of jewelry - expensive, yes, but in the end, it's just an object, not worth hurt feelings.
