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Jan. 4th, 2004 11:05 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jadegirlShe's doing ti again, and it's driving me mad. My upstairs neighbor is a 64 year old woman, apparently with a host of health problems, and unsteady on her feet. Her children are grown, and have hired a live-in nurse for her. Every day, at all hours of the day and night, up to two and three in the morning, we hear large pieces of furniture being dragged across the floors (like us, she has hardwood, rather than carpet). That was pretty bad, but it's getting worse - the woman spend a great deal of time *screaming* at her nurse, loudly enough that not only can I hear every word while in my apartment, I can hear her when I'm outside!
It's a very strange situation. The woman is...mean. I have spoken to her once, she was eager to tell Sir and I how 'stupid' her nurse is, and how terrible her care is, at length. The odd thing about that experience was that it was in the lobby, at 12:30 at night. Apparently the woman had been out - alone, and fine with that. Odd. Now, my mother was a home health aide for 20-odd years, and being as she took me to work with her, I know a good deal about the business, and have talked with mom about the situation, and gotten her impressions. It's possible that the care she's getting is sub-par, I do not know. I have to do something about this, though. I have a friend who works building security here, I need to speak to him, find out what I can do.
I can hear her right now. It's making me crazy - I honestly can't describe how it makes me feel. A slightly raised voice will bring me to a full stop, it's a major trigger for me. Sir has spent extraordinary amounts of effort on modulating his voice in times of stress, having seen what it does to me. Full-out screaming, like this? I'm six years old again, sitting on my bed, rocking back and forth. Oh, gods.
It's a very strange situation. The woman is...mean. I have spoken to her once, she was eager to tell Sir and I how 'stupid' her nurse is, and how terrible her care is, at length. The odd thing about that experience was that it was in the lobby, at 12:30 at night. Apparently the woman had been out - alone, and fine with that. Odd. Now, my mother was a home health aide for 20-odd years, and being as she took me to work with her, I know a good deal about the business, and have talked with mom about the situation, and gotten her impressions. It's possible that the care she's getting is sub-par, I do not know. I have to do something about this, though. I have a friend who works building security here, I need to speak to him, find out what I can do.
I can hear her right now. It's making me crazy - I honestly can't describe how it makes me feel. A slightly raised voice will bring me to a full stop, it's a major trigger for me. Sir has spent extraordinary amounts of effort on modulating his voice in times of stress, having seen what it does to me. Full-out screaming, like this? I'm six years old again, sitting on my bed, rocking back and forth. Oh, gods.
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Date: 2004-01-05 02:19 pm (UTC)On the other hand, my mother kept talking about how awful everyone was to her -- her doctor (because she wanted Mom to have brain scans), the neighbours (because they offered to shovel for her in the winter), etc.
It's so hard to tell. :(
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Date: 2004-01-05 06:23 pm (UTC)As much as I hate to say it, because proper elder-care is a big issue for me, even if the care *is* sub-par, I don't think I have much sympathy.
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Date: 2004-01-06 12:45 am (UTC)